2012-06-siblings

Sibling Rivalry

Written by Dr. Vicki Folds on . Posted in Child Discipline, Childcare Tips

While many kids are lucky enough to become the best of friends with their siblings, it’s common for brothers and sisters to fight. However, it’s also common for them to swing back and forth between loving and detesting one other!

Often, sibling rivalry starts even before the second child is born, and continues as the kids grow and compete for everything from toys to attention. As kids reach different stages of development, their evolving needs can significantly affect how they relate to one another.
It can be frustrating and upsetting to watch — and hear — your kids fight with one another.

A household that’s full of conflict is stressful for everyone. Yet often it’s hard to know how to stop the fighting, and or even whether you should get involved at all. But you can take steps to promote peace in your household and help your kids get along.

1. Treat each child as an individual. Help them understand that they are treated differently by you and have different privileges and responsibilities because they are different individuals.
2.Avoid labeling or comparing one child to the other. This feeds into their competitiveness.
3. When a new child comes into the family,adequately prepare the older sibling for his/her new important role. Make her feel like the baby is his/her baby, too.
4. Play detective. Watch and note when siblings are not getting along [before dinner, in the car, before bed] and plan separate quiet activities for those times.
5. Do Not Play Favorites. Watch how you treat each child.
6. Positively reinforce them when they are getting along.
7. Make each child feel special and important. Try to spend one-on-one time with each child every day.

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Dr. Vicki Folds

A Leader in Her Field - Vicki Folds, Ed.D VP of Education and Professional Development Vicki Folds, Ed.D, has been involved in early childhood education for over twenty-five years. Dr. Folds graduated from Nova Southeastern University with a doctorate in educational leadership and technology in Child and Youth Studies. She has traveled around the world lecturing and attending international conferences such as NAEYC, NCCA and the World Forum. Dr. Folds has also maintained an adjunct position as an early childhood professor at community colleges and universities for the past ten years. She is actively involved with NAEYC (National Association for the Education of Young Children) and is a CDA (Child Development Associate) Representative, advisor and trainer. She is the past NAEYC state affiliate president for ECA of FL (Early Childhood Association of Florida) and her local county organization, BAEYC. Currently, she is a Chairman of the Child Development and Education Program Advisory Committee at Broward Community College. She is also on the NAEYC Editorial Board and the SECA (Southern Early Childhood Association) Editorial Board as well as reviews texts and manuscripts for Thomson Delmar Publishers. Dr. Folds has been a featured guest on numerous radio and television shows and has been quoted as an early childhood expert in magazines such as Parent, Parenting, Redbook, Parent and Child, Sesame Street, and Nickelodeon's Nick Jr. Magazines. She has frequently published articles both in print (National Headstart Magazine, "Children and Families") and on the Internet. Her book, "Tray Tasking" and "Three Step Tray Tasking" promote reading and writing as well as critical thinking skills and have been resounding successes in the literary field.

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